Attracting Men:What to Look for in a Man

Look for a Man Who Knows What He Wants

Many relationships end because one person is in the process of growing and soon decides they're looking for something different. This is VERY common for younger men. They will think they want something, then after they have it will decide they want something more, or maybe something completely different. Relationships kick-start the growth process and you never know where the other person is going to end up. You may want to look for someone who's already been in a few relationships and is reflective enough to learn from each one. Older men typically have a better idea of what they're looking for, but at the same time have more specific needs (higher standards) and can sometimes fake an entire relationship for some temporary companionship.

Look for a Man With Integrity

Finding the guy who has everything you're looking for won't end up working out if he ends up being a liar and/or a cheater. Be very careful of the guy who can have any woman he wants. They usually know this and won't stop to ask your permission. A good way to see if a guy has integrity is to see how he responds when he has a chance to help someone when it isn't in his best interest. Another good way is to catch how he acts when no one is watching. Does he throw away his trash in a trach can when you're around, but litter when he thinks he's by himself?

Also, a guy can have all the integrity in the world but still end up cheating on you if he's a sex addict and can't control himself.

Look for a Man Who's Ready to Settle Down

Most men come to a point in their lives when they decide its time to find a woman and start a family. These are the ones you should be looking for, but they don't stay on the market for long. The age men hit this stage varies by the region and the type of person he is. Usually men in cities, the north, and with ambition will hit it later in life. Men in rural areas, the south, and more down to earth will tend to hit it sooner. Identifying them is where the difficulty lies.

This one is very tricky, and you can sabotage the whole deal if you approach it wrong. On one had, you'll have some men lie to you about this just to get in your pants or if you're dealing with a serial monogamist who needs to find the next companion in line. On the other hand, some men won't be upfront about this or will lie about it all together because either they want someone to want them for them (and not marriage), or, they just want the relationship to start out romantically. The only way to get to the bottom of what they want is to feel them out and look for clues when they're not managing your impression of them.